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Let’s talk about that ‘W’ word

Today I’m going to keep things a little short and sweet. The aim of this post is to make you meditate and think about how it applies to you. I’m going to talk about the ‘why’ word.

A lot of people in the social media industry have recently been opening up about their breaks from social media. The reason is simple…they lost their why.

I’ve struggled with this too. It’s absolutely normal. I mean, just think of all the TEDx talks given or self-help books written about finding your why; finding your purpose. Everybody struggles with finding what their purpose is. We all desperately seek meaning for the things we do. It’s so essential. It’s easy to get lost and confused when you don’t know your why.

For me, it’s been the ‘why blog’ question. The answers to this question have changed within the past year, I guess, in line with me growing up and changing too. However, the main ones remain the same. Firstly, a big part of why I began was to prove to myself that I can start and maintain a big project on my own. Particularly one that I’m passionate about. As a person, I always have big dreams and ideas, but they tend to remain just that…never being implemented. Putting up Kenyanbelle did wonders for me on that front. I don’t fear big projects anymore, I actually look forward to them.

The second reason is known (y’all should have checked my about page by now- lol!), I didn’t think there was a blog out there that shared everything under the sun that would be interesting to young Kenyan girls like myself. All I could find were specialized blogs. Hence, here we are. 🙂

For the most part, I was okay with these reasons being the answers to my ‘why’. Up until I began getting questions along the lines of “when are you going to commercialise your blog?” or ”have you started making money?” or ”why haven’t you started doing promos or hunting for companies to advertise their products?” My answers to these was simply, a polite smile and a quick “that’s not my main focus for the blog right now”. The response would be the same: an odd look of misunderstanding and a reluctant acceptance of my answer.😅

Yes, I know that most of these questions were well-intended but what I was reading from them is that my own personal reasons were not enough. It felt like I was wasting my time just because I was blogging for fun. So in turn, I began overthinking my posts which resulted in me slowing down on blog content as I was never fully satisfied with the drafts.

It took me a while to realise it but with plenty of help from my friends and some much-needed inward reflection, I got it. Fast-forward to a few months down the line and here I am, with a newly found acceptance for doing what is okay with me solely because it makes sense to me. I urge you too, to find this acceptance of your why.

Photography by Patrick Mbugua

Denim jacket – Nairobi Apparel District

Sweater dress – Atmosphere

Ankle boots – Zara

Don’t forget to like, comment and share!

— Ivy xx

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My name is Ivy Mabelle. Founder of this blog. I’m a twenty-something year old Kenyan, law graduate who occasionally cooks and writes. I’ve got many interests that I write about on here and hope someone else might enjoy too. xx

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jael

Very inspiring…great job girl 😊😊

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Ivy

Thank you love! 😊😘

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Cynthia Okech

Yes, thank you for reminding us to always look back and reflect on why we do the things we chose to do!! 😘

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Ivy

Hey girlie!
Just tryna help people out. Thank you! ❤

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Jefkanzy

I believe I can tackle big projects too. I know why.
Very well put..thumbs up

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Ivy

Thank you Jeff!

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Connie

Amazing amazing!! You look amazing! The write up too 🙂

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Ivy

Heya Connie
Thank you so much!! 😊😚

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Yvette

I love this…this is really motivating

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Ivy

Heya Yvette!
Thank you, glad you like it. 😊

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Catherine penda

Beautiful 😊😊
I love…. 👌

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Ivy

Thank you Catherine! 🙂 🙂

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Jean

I really like that you’ve talked about this especially because I think that it’s a question everyone should ask themselves about all their social media accounts and stay true to their answer. Great job girl 👏.

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Mabelle

I second your take on this post…
Thumbs up.

Mabelle.

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Ivy

Heya Jean!
Thank you so much. I’m glad it resonates with you.☺😘

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Mabelle

Ivy, this answers my earlier concern which you now have discretely, cleverly and indeed deeply handled. Your focussing lens are sharpening in leaps. One can’t wait for the time you will be writing judgement (s) in SCOK (!).
Bravo.

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Ivy

Thank you for the kind words Dad! Yes, on to the Supreme Court! 😊😊

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Everlyne

Go girl, you have what it needs to make it in life….in you I see a focused girl and someone changing the world in both small and big ways.I am happy I met you at the right time. Count on my support when in doubt

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Ivy

Hi Everlyne!
Thank you so much. I really appreciate it. It means a lot coming from you. 😊😊

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Flo

Well written, deep and true. I bet even “seasoned” bloggers will think hard after reading this. Best one yet and follow your passion! Proud of you!

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Ivy

Thank you so much! I’m glad you like it. More posts will follow! 😊

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Johness Kimau

I totally love the outfit particularly the boots and the post is without a doubt my favorite so far. I can not wait for your next one 😉

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Ivy

Thank you Johness! 🙂

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